Just finished being harangued by patty for an hour and a half, after which, when she finally reduced me to ugly crying, she hung up. So evidently i have to the twins an ultimatum that either they deal with patty in her effort to avoid the parents' total financial collapse, or she quits being involved and everything just falls apart.
I CANNOT FIX THIS. this whole situation started 25 years ago when the parents started subsidising the twins' rent free life style, and has culminated in mom defending the twins no matter what because she doesn't want to lose her little buddies in her little suburban bubble, dad spending every cent he had plus more to support a family of 4 into his 91st year, and me trying to keep things organized and finally admitting i can't do it.
I would totally walk away from all of this if it weren't for leaving 2 vulnerable 90 year olds alone. The twins have bullied, harassed and threatened to the point where i an afraid of everyone, and mom has let both patty and i know, in no uncertain terms, that we are supposed to not upset her babies. If i let everything just blow up, i am sentencing my parents to death. If i make ultimatums, i am losing access to the rest of my family.
I an hysterical and i don't know what to do.